Writers Need Each Other

I was interviewed by a great writer, Aaron Ritchey and one of his questions was “Who do you write with?” I had an answer right away because I understood what he meant.

Writers need other writers for support, to bounce ideas off each other and because only another writer understands the language. If I tell a non-author friend that my character stopped talking to me, they will nod and get that vacant ‘what-the-hell-is-she-talking-about’ look. Where as a fellow author will say “Give him a day or two then demand he speak to you.”So for those of you that don’t have a support group…GET ONE!  Attend local writing groups, you can find them on Meet-up or through genre chapters.  If you write romance, I encourage you visit your local RWA chapter.  Join RWA at least for one year so you can join the state chapter.  Attend several meetings, at first you may feel awkward, but you’ll soon find out that because writing is such a solitary art, most writers are very welcoming in group settings.

71839_395638357198440_1108924812_n(Laura Kaye, Rosalie Lario and Me at Olde City, New Blood in St. Augustine, FL)

If you haven’t yet, join a yahoo critique group. Sometimes through critique groups, you’ll find one writer you’ll connect with and from there build an internet Authromance. :-) 602519_302753916486885_178271396_n

(Ciara Knight and I at Romfest, Gatlingburg, TN)

Now, one other way to connect that I find super fun is to attend writer/reader conferences.  I am a social person, so the hubbub of literary activity makes me tingle with excitement.  If you are not social, bring a reader pal along.  There are tons of literary events in every city, look it up and go.308907_10150973123041816_344772382_n

(CJ Ellisson, Rachel Firasek, Boone Brux and Me at Authors After Dark, New Orleans, LA)

Once you build a support group, believe me not only will your writing become better, but you’ll wonder how you made it without it.

Thoughts?  Questions?

At A Writer’s Conference, Now What?

I’m At  A Conference…Now What?

Ciara and I at RWA Conference in Orlando, Florida

The first writer’s conference I attended was Moonlight & Magnolias in Atlanta, Georgia.  I walked around in circles.  No kidding that’s what I did.  I went from my hotel room to a workshop to the Goodie Room, grabbed swag and hurried back to my room.  I was like a squirrel preparing for winter.

The entire time, I was too scared to talk to anyone, the multitude of people and activities overwhelmed me and my feet were throbbing.  A great thing did happen at this conference, Ciara Knight noticed my inner beauty took pity and talked to me.  Maybe she needed me to stop circling because I was making her dizzy, but nonetheless her kindness helped me make it through the conference.

Ladies and gentlemen, after attending several more conferences, I am still walking in circles, but now I know to wear comfortable shoes so my feet are not hurting as much.

While in no way as qualified to give conference attendance advice, I will share what I have learned.

Guess what? Everyone is also walking in circles.  It’s best to find a good spot somewhere in the hotel, make that the safe place you and your friends can rally whenever someone feels overwhelmed and needs a break. If you are going solo, this is especially helpful, go to a corner and name it yours. Believe me it helps to find a ‘favorite’ familiar spot to rest.

Networking is the name of the game.  Classes, workshops, book signings…yeah, yeah.  What you get the most out of at writers’ conferences, is getting your name out and meeting people.  SO talk to people.  What?  You’re shy?  Then wear a button that says “Ask me about my hero’s fetish” or “Ask me who I just killed.”  You get the gist, believe me writers are nosy people, they will ask.

Bring tons of business cards with your name, latest book title, web/blog site address and email address.  Give them to everybody, even the lady whose toe you run over with your luggage in the elevator.  If you attach a mint or gum, they will love you!  They are super inexpensive at VistaPrint.com

Write!  Yes that’s correct, I’m telling you to make time to write.  The best thing about a conference is that you are surrounded by writers and the air is charged with creativity. It seeps into you and energizes the urge to write!  So take time to write before crashing for the night, or during a break. Keep you centered.

Lastly, Take Pity.  If you see someone walking around in a circle, invite them to your ‘safe place’ and have a cup of tea or a diet coke with them.  Share with them, you may just make a friend for life, like I did.

Any advice y’all want to add?

Ciara and I at the Romantic Times Conference in Chicago

Hildie McQueen And Ciara Knight attended Romfest 2012 in Gatlingburg, Tennessee and will be attending Moonlight and Magnolias in Atlanta, Georgia

Hildie will also attend Authors after Dark, in New Orleans and Put Your Heart In a Book in Iselin, New Jersey this year!